[HarlemHxC814]

Alright guys, need your help again, this one isn't as simple as putting a hole through her navel. I was talking to my girlfriend on the phone last night and she was going to tell me something. She said "I have to tell you something". So then I said "ok, what". She stops and says "uhh...nevermind I'll tell you when the time is right." Things like this really upset me because I hate it when people are about to say something, yet they say "never mind" and act as if nothing happened. We got into a huge argument about it because my theory is that I thought that she can say anything to me, nor should she be afraid to. Her argument is that I am being extremely stubborn about it and I should let it go. To further emphasize her point, she told me she told one of her friends and she told me her friend told her not to tell me (i really hope that made sense). This however, made me want to know what she wanted to tell me that much more. I could use some help on this one guys. This is not a joke, this is causing a real strain in my relationship and I care about this girl a lot. It's just everytime I'll talk to her from now on, this topic will always be in the back of my mind. She's quite adamant about not telling me.

[JetsRock1991]

When my GF said that to me she was hiding the fact that she was a smoker and I was pissed cuz she told all of my friends and all of her friends but she didnt tell me. Finally she did. So i can understand the situation u guys r in. Did u tell her that there is nothing she cant tell u? Do u think she may be pregnant?

[HarlemHxC814]

If so, its not by me...we havent had sex yet. My friend suggested the same thing

[penningtonpays]

just forget it for know shell tell you when its the right time in her mind. sounds like cant live with cant live without kinda relationship.

[Chadforpresidentin08]

Just approach here real smooth and cool and ask her, but if you got in an arguement, that might not work, but try it. If not, then don't worry about it or investigate it.

[JetsMan4012]

Just approach here real smooth and cool and ask her, but if you got in an arguement, that might not work, but try it. If not, then don't worry about it or investigate it.

don't worry about it OR investigate it, those r two completely different things, i don't see y u would suggest something along with its opposite.

[Jetsfan115]

as a guy with a GF that i bet is a million times crazier then any of yours this is the best advice i can give

1) all women are crazy
2) women aren't like men. they need to be "in the mood to do things" i don't mean it sexually i mena anything. sometimes she might feel in the mood to tell u everything and other times she might feel "in the mood" to keep everything a secret from u. its just the way ALL women are. they don't always say whats on their mind and their minds change at the drop of a dime.
3) there is NOTHING u can do about it. seriously. if u investigate she'll get mad at u, if u keep begging to tell u she'll get mad at u. i know its impossible to forget that u know she has somthign on her mind she wont tell u but u can't harp on it. she'll tell u when she's ready (which sadly might be never) and she'll take a friedns crappy advice over yours ALWAYS!

so all in all u have 2 choices wait it out or show her the door. there is nothing else u can do.

hope that helps, but remember the grass wont be greener on the other side

[JetsMan4012]

if u investigate she'll get mad at u, if u keep begging to tell u she'll get mad at u.

i have gone down that road before, begging girls to tell me something or something along those lines, infact(i haven't been begging her and i never begg girls, i just do it allot at different times, but i don't mean to usually) its happening to me right now and shes mad at me, but i know its gonna be all good cause were good friends(its that girl that i told u about way back when, the girl with the myspace, yes i still like her nothing related to asking her out or anything like that though)

[XvNukemHighvX]

You have to look at it as what kind of "strain" it is puting on ya. Also how much you trust her. A lot of that shit is in your head. It could be anything she wanted to say and it might not even pertain to you. It could be the frind she told wants to hook up with one of yours and that's why neither of them think you should know until the time is right. Not guessing here but when my wife does shit like that I usally get mad and blow it all out of proportion and it turns out to be something dumb. Then not only did I piss her off but I feel retarded for yelling about buying some new furniture. Women are not simple like us...

[HarlemHxC814]

You know, she actually told me a couple of weeks ago what it was. She thought we should break up when I head to college. I guess thats what I got for trying to pry it out of her. None of it matters though because we broke up on thursday. She said that she needed time to figure things out or something like that and she needed to get away from guys so our relationship is on hold. I hate that stupid crap anyway, so if she figures herself out within a reasonable amount of time, fine. If I meet someone however, I'm going for it. She said she would be fine with that so I guess its cool if I do. It's kind of weird with us being "friends" now because I know that barely ever works.

[Jetsfan115]

You know, she actually told me a couple of weeks ago what it was. She thought we should break up when I head to college. I guess thats what I got for trying to pry it out of her. None of it matters though because we broke up on thursday. She said that she needed time to figure things out or something like that and she needed to get away from guys so our relationship is on hold. I hate that stupid crap anyway, so if she figures herself out within a reasonable amount of time, fine. If I meet someone however, I'm going for it. She said she would be fine with that so I guess its cool if I do. It's kind of weird with us being "friends" now because I know that barely ever works.

honostly your screwed. she WON'T be fine with it. women never say what they mean, yes is no, no is yes and i'm fine with it means "how could you do that to me" seriously. i only see 2 options you either wait for her to "get her head in the game" (women go through cycles like that its pretty normal for a chick to do that) or just tell her that maybe it'd be better if you don't talk anymore. right now your in a state of limbo and everything you do is wrong so you have to clear it up. either tell her that you care about her and you'll wait for her or tell her its better if you don't talk anymore.

just my advice though but its the truth

[HarlemHxC814]

honostly your screwed. she WON'T be fine with it. women never say what they mean, yes is no, no is yes and i'm fine with it means "how could you do that to me" seriously. i only see 2 options you either wait for her to "get her head in the game" (women go through cycles like that its pretty normal for a chick to do that) or just tell her that maybe it'd be better if you don't talk anymore. right now your in a state of limbo and everything you do is wrong so you have to clear it up. either tell her that you care about her and you'll wait for her or tell her its better if you don't talk anymore.

just my advice though but its the truth

Yeah, I see what you're saying. We were friends long before we started dating though and she made me "promise" her that we'd still be friends when we broke up...and that was when we 1st started dating. We did talk often though after we broke up. It's weird though, she says to me a couple of nights ago, "I'm not used to guys being nice to me, and you are...and I really don't know how to deal with that." So I made the mistake of saying something nice to her (albeit it was an accident lol...it just came out). She was like "see! That's what I mean! I don't know how to take that!" I was somewhat shocked by that, I havent really been able to talk to her since.

[Jetsfan115]

the best thing i can say is all women have serious mental issues and there is nothing you can do about it but deal with it.

[HarlemHxC814]

the best thing i can say is all women have serious mental issues and there is nothing you can do about it but deal with it.

you hit the nail on the head man. she'll want me back when I declare for the NFL in 2010 haha